Different personality types of men and women

Published: 03rd April 2012
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Written by Norbert Henke (Counselor/Psychotherapist) (842 words)
Single men and women have to protect and rely on themselves for their own happiness, quality of life and decision-making. Often, for many men and women, the other partner becomes a barometer of their self-worth, love and self-esteem. This can lead to dependency, which then leads to fear, loss in confidence, loss in self-esteem, and so forth. It creates a down spiral. Every man and woman should therefore gather information to enhance their understanding about self-esteem, relationship building, childhood programming, inner-fears, the true self and so forth.
This article is designed to promote awareness towards happiness and confidence.
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A man’s interactions with female partner or female clients can encompass a variety of close and distant relationships. For instant a masseur, a physiotherapist or a taxi-driver might be in contact with female clients on regular basis. The more they see of each other the more they talk and maybe, if a liking is established. Their bond can venture outside the usual business associations and do something more social such as going dancing or ride horses. In order to maintain good will and avoid misunderstandings, it makes good sense to know about personality types of female partners and female clients. This awareness is not like an instruction manual, but it helps to increase more tolerance towards a person who behaves and thinks differently to us.

However, we need not totally rely on guess work, because people belong to different personality type groups. When we know our own type we can increase an understanding that people are different, and are governed by different needs. When people interact with people who possess the same values and attitudes, they experience less conflict and stress, then those who lie in opposite camps.
Our attitudes were shaped when we were children. We possess inherited traits such as personality, wants and instinctive desires. Throughout our lives we are busy to satisfy these traits, giving us fun and enjoyment. Problems occur when these instinctive traits, lets call them nature, are suppressed by attitudes that come from parents, mentor and peer groups. When we were children we wanted to satisfy our parent’s needs and demands, due to our fear of punishment or the fear of other forms reprimands and so we shaped these experiences as beliefs that give us our attitudes. Later on in our adult lives, we can still be hold down by negative attitudes that deprive us from happiness. Happiness is important for the quality of life of every human; it keeps us healthy. Suppressing our instinctive desires and our true identity can make us sick and as a result confusion and frustration are constant companions on our journey throughout life. If we do not find ‘psychological escape buttons’ or develop coping skills, destructive behaviour such as outburst of rage or anger might result with certain intervals. People in turbulent relationship might have witnessed these sudden outbursts, and react in shock and anger. Applying some empathy can be the trick to smooth over a delicate situation. When we see the emotional world from their point of view, it becomes clear to us that they probably have not learned or do not dare to express their feelings and thoughts to us. It can often be the case they are lacking in assertiveness by avoiding a conflict. It seems that they cannot say “NO”.
This relates to female partners and female client as well. Shy partners / clients can be easily exploited or financially ripped off through their lack of assertiveness. These partner / clients might not return and even revenge themselves by spreading bad reputation. Therefore empathy and patience towards a shy partner / clients is appreciated.
Which type of personality do you belong to:
Type A ( has a strong desire for self –acknowledgment)
Do you tend to be controlling and domineering and demand attention?
Do you spend much time on looking good or dressed the best?
Do you enjoy being the centre of attention?
Do you dislike working in groups?
Do you dislike criticism?
Are you the star or life energy at a party?

Type B (has a strong for social interactions)
Do you enjoy playful flirtations?
Do you prefer theatres than candle dinners at home?
Do you like working in groups or in a social environment?
Are you outgoing and friendly?
Do you carefully choice dresses that fit the occasion?
Do you keep up with the latest fashion trends?

Type C (has a strong need for security)
Are quiet and unpretentious?
Do you mostly keep in the background?
Are you supportive and caring of others?
Do you like to work on long-term projects?
Do you have a strong desire to be accepted by other people?
Are you trustworthy and stable?

Type D ( has a strong desire for self-fulfilment)
Are you passionate and romantic in love?
Are you enthusiastic and creative?
Do you dislike coming in second place?
Are you extremely competitive?
Are you missing good people skill?
Is your dress sense not the best?

The instinctive traits of each personality type have to be fulfilled to a certain level to ensure a conflict free mind. The person of a different personality type can become threatened. For instant, the type D very competitive desires will clash with Type B desires to have fun with lots of people. Type A desire to be the centre of attention might scare type C who likes to stay in the background. Different types can adjust or reach compromises or learn to not interpret a different personality type as a threat. Counselling can achieve good results to handle and prevent stress.
Another way to avoid stress is through handling communications roadblocks.

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